What's wrong with me?

[utkarsh.s]

Hi all,

First off thanx for visiting this thread.

I am going to post an off-topic thread, but this is where I want to get some advise from. I am an engineering student , completed my first year but got an F1 in one subject. Now probably the university would like me to repeat the year or carry the subject forward.

I seriously dont know whats wrong with me, I do studyhard and scored above 75% in every other engineering subjects. But everytime something happens which whitewashes all my good deeds. My parents have invested a fortune in my education and whenever I try to give them the best result, everything goes bad. I just cant help myself. Either I should stop studying and stop wasting my parents money or else i cud carry on wasting it.

Guys, I request everyone on YE.com to please advise me. I am totally out of control and I can't find out any other alternatives.

Regards,
Utkarsh

[Nigami Enterprise]

Hi all,

First off thanx for visiting this thread.


My parents have invested a fortune in my education and whenever I try to give them the best result, everything goes bad. I just cant help myself. Either I should stop studying and stop wasting my parents money or else i cud carry on wasting it.

You have to start pleasing yourself not just your parents. You have some big decisions to make. If uni isn't for you stop now uni isnt for everybody. Not all successful people have degrees believe it or not. Anyway all the best with it. It's up to you to decide.

[akula]

Utkarsh, what are you stressing about? so you flunked a subject. Big deal.

Just chill out and remember these sage words: "businessmen who worry, die young"

your problem is that you failed a subject. your solution is to repeat the subject. full stop.

it's got nothing to do with your parents, dynamics of socio-economic achievement, or any other issues in your life. isolate your problems, and apply solutions. no need to stress your self out by worrying about things which you shouldn't be worrying about.

[akula]

You have to start pleasing yourself not just your parents. You have some big decisions to make. If uni isn't for you stop now uni isnt for everybody. Not all successful people have degrees believe it or not. Anyway all the best with it. It's up to you to decide.

dude, stop stressing him out. what you're talking about is irrelevant. there is no need to make a big deal out of something completely trivial.

[nado]

Shit happens

Tell them you "gained valuable contacts for future employment". In other words you were out having fun, partying and networking

[utkarsh.s]

Utkarsh, what are you stressing about? so you flunked a subject. Big deal.

Just chill out and remember these sage words: "businessmen who worry, die young"

your problem is that you failed a subject. your solution is to repeat the subject. full stop.

it's got nothing to do with your parents, dynamics of socio-economic achievement, or any other issues in your life. isolate your problems, and apply solutions. no need to stress your self out by worrying about things which you shouldn't be worrying about.

Hi daniel, you are right that I shudnt stress a lot abt such trivial matter. But to be honest I never flunked even once and this has made my parents to expect a lot from me. Also, I wasnt interested in engineering at all but in some business studies. Anyways, i'll take your advice and repeat the bloody subject.

Thanx a lot nado for supporting me. But I think it'll take time to clear my mind. I am in the middle of my new venture and this shit happens.

Thanx a lot guys!

[MfG]

do what's best for yourself. can't satisfy the whole world.

[mary anne]

I think every student goes through this stage (for the straight A students, a B would be the same as an F).

Don't get too hyped about it. Use it as another stepping stone for success. If you want that grade to influence your life, let it influence you in a motivating sort of way. Don't let anything else distract you from going back up again, not even the pressure from your parents.

[cokeclassact]

i think akula's response is true....but look even deeper into the context of that response. akula is, from what i gather, a successful businessman. who are you trying to impress by going to school? well..guys like akula for one. and yet he doesnt think that you failing a course is a big deal. my record is by no means spotless (and im a fairly intelligent guy), and yet when i applied to an internship at UBS this past summer they were willing to take me on, even though im sure that there were guys who wanted the job who had better GPAs and went to more prestigious schools. people looking to hire you..which is who you are trying to impress by going to school, are just like you. imagine yourself as a successful individual ten years from now. you are looking over a list of applicants. one of the applicants failed a course once in engineering. are you going to tell him he doesnt have the job because he failed the course? of course not, because once upon a time you also failed a course and now look where you are. its even possible you would remember that applicant more because you identified with him. if i was in the position and i was looking to hire someone and i noticed that they failed a course in engineering the only thing i would want to know about that is what they did afterwards. did they pick themselves up by the bootstraps and retake the course? did they decide that engineering just wasnt for them? as long as i can understand that the individual learned from his mistake, i have no problem with him failing a course because there are so many elements that go into the grading of a course and a low grade does not automatically mean that the student was stupid or lazy. also the fact that you are currently undertaking a business venture, which is based around a solid concept, gives you so much more of an edge. again, if i was hiring im picking the individual who is capable of innovating and possesses an entrepreneurial drive over a straight A student who shows no sign of a capacity to do anything besides spit out information that he learned by rote any day. hope this helps. sorry for such a lengthy response.

[gryph]

If you aren't interested in engineering, why are you doing it? Do you really want to have a career that you don't enjoy?

Forget about what your parents expect of you, and think about where you see yourself in 10 years. What do you want to be doing? If the answer isn't engineering, then my suggestion is to switch majors (or schools).

If you do decide to stay with engineering, then don't stress... I'm studying engineering too (naval engineering and naval architecture, to be precise), and I've failed a subject too last year. It's not a big deal--You'll just take it again next semester and you'll get an even better grade because you've already been through the class before!

Also, consider changing your study habits if your current methods aren't helping. Try going to a park and studying there. Maybe go to Starbucks and have a cup of joe while reading about Maclaurin expansion series or vapor compression cycles!

[utkarsh.s]

i think akula's response is true....but look even deeper into the context of that response. akula is, from what i gather, a successful businessman. who are you trying to impress by going to school? well..guys like akula for one. and yet he doesnt think that you failing a course is a big deal. my record is by no means spotless (and im a fairly intelligent guy), and yet when i applied to an internship at UBS this past summer they were willing to take me on, even though im sure that there were guys who wanted the job who had better GPAs and went to more prestigious schools. people looking to hire you..which is who you are trying to impress by going to school, are just like you. imagine yourself as a successful individual ten years from now. you are looking over a list of applicants. one of the applicants failed a course once in engineering. are you going to tell him he doesnt have the job because he failed the course? of course not, because once upon a time you also failed a course and now look where you are. its even possible you would remember that applicant more because you identified with him. if i was in the position and i was looking to hire someone and i noticed that they failed a course in engineering the only thing i would want to know about that is what they did afterwards. did they pick themselves up by the bootstraps and retake the course? did they decide that engineering just wasnt for them? as long as i can understand that the individual learned from his mistake, i have no problem with him failing a course because there are so many elements that go into the grading of a course and a low grade does not automatically mean that the student was stupid or lazy. also the fact that you are currently undertaking a business venture, which is based around a solid concept, gives you so much more of an edge. again, if i was hiring im picking the individual who is capable of innovating and possesses an entrepreneurial drive over a straight A student who shows no sign of a capacity to do anything besides spit out information that he learned by rote any day. hope this helps. sorry for such a lengthy response.

First off thanx a lot mike for such precise explanation and understandinf of my situation. I am really looking forward to meet all you guys out there because its not always when strangers gives you a good advice.

Thanx mary anne and gryph for supporting me.

Geez!!! i dinno I had so many friends out there who are willing to help.

Thanx again.

Regards,
Utkarsh

[Hooch112]

i think akula's response is true....but look even deeper into the context of that response. akula is, from what i gather, a successful businessman. who are you trying to impress by going to school? well..guys like akula for one. and yet he doesnt think that you failing a course is a big deal. my record is by no means spotless (and im a fairly intelligent guy), and yet when i applied to an internship at UBS this past summer they were willing to take me on, even though im sure that there were guys who wanted the job who had better GPAs and went to more prestigious schools. people looking to hire you..which is who you are trying to impress by going to school, are just like you. imagine yourself as a successful individual ten years from now. you are looking over a list of applicants. one of the applicants failed a course once in engineering. are you going to tell him he doesnt have the job because he failed the course? of course not, because once upon a time you also failed a course and now look where you are. its even possible you would remember that applicant more because you identified with him. if i was in the position and i was looking to hire someone and i noticed that they failed a course in engineering the only thing i would want to know about that is what they did afterwards. did they pick themselves up by the bootstraps and retake the course? did they decide that engineering just wasnt for them? as long as i can understand that the individual learned from his mistake, i have no problem with him failing a course because there are so many elements that go into the grading of a course and a low grade does not automatically mean that the student was stupid or lazy. also the fact that you are currently undertaking a business venture, which is based around a solid concept, gives you so much more of an edge. again, if i was hiring im picking the individual who is capable of innovating and possesses an entrepreneurial drive over a straight A student who shows no sign of a capacity to do anything besides spit out information that he learned by rote any day. hope this helps. sorry for such a lengthy response.

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[lourdes]

Utkarsh.s:do not get frustrated, college is not easy, everybody knows that. In regards of one class that you did not pass, the college is not going to make you repeat the whole year, you just need to repeat that only class you failed. First year of college is not easy, so take it easy, if you study hard like you said, you are going to do fine.

[cokeclassact]

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hey just tryin to help the kid out.

[cgleason]

What course was it? I finished up my degree in Electrical Engineering. I was in the same boat as you...went from being an awesome student in high school to a very mediocre one in college. Don't let the stress get to you.

So, how far along are you? The reason I ask is because in engineering you reach a certain point where it becomes "too late to turn back." In other words, you have already gone off so far on the math/science tangent that switching to a non-technical major would really set you back a few years. It would result it many non-transferable classes and TONS of wasted time

Now for the good news. Having a background in engineering will do wonders for your career in business. After about my 2nd year into it I realized that engineering really wasn't for me...but I struggled through it. After I graduated, I enrolled in a Masters program in Economics. Man, I FLEW through that program....only a year later I had a masters degree

Here's why....a "struggling" engineer is still WAY better in math than any "non-technical" student. The majority of my work in Economics was math related, and the concepts were even easier to understand if you just work out the math behind it.

Conclusion: I got a job as an "engineer," but I have slowly migrated into the product planning department. Forecasting is HUGE in the tech world. Supply chain management, inventories, vendor alignment...all very important. What ultimately lies beneth is statistics and data analysis. If you are able to get through the loads of math courses that are part of your engineering courses.....this will be a breeze! If you can combine a TRUE knowledge of the product you're selling, and apply economic principles to that product you'll find that this combination is VERY desireable to employers.

...so stay in school