Measure yourself by your BEST moment, not by your WORST

**Librazoe1982** · 09-03-2008 09:03 AM

The way we perceive ourselves plays an important role in our self-esteem and confidence. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, almost every time we notice what we dislike about ourselves. “My nose is too big,” or, “I am fat.” Our minds automatically tell us the negative qualities we have.

Success and achievement is also important to us. When we fail at something, we choose to remember it, and many of us allow it to discourage us. We go through life counting all our mistakes and forgetting about the good things we have done, goals we have achieved.

Negativity in our minds is like poison to our self-esteem and the way we perceive the world and others. The more negative we are the less happy we are.

Thinking positively about ourselves builds our self-esteem and confidence. So the next time you look in the mirror, make a conscious effort to notice at least 2 good things about yourself. The more you practice being positive the easier it becomes.

Goals and success come easier too by thinking and acting positively. We all make mistakes, it’s apart of life but it doesn’t mean failure. There is no such thing as failure, they are just learning experiences.

Measure yourself by your BEST moment, not by your WORST.

**jmasters1691** · 09-04-2008 11:49 AM

Good point! Have you read the poem "Our Deepest Fear" by Marianne Williamson?

**Ahern & Brucker** · 09-04-2008 12:09 PM

I don't know if that's the best advice or not...

I'd think you might consider measuring yourself by what is real. everything weighed in and all checked and balanced and build from both your strengths and weaknesses...

you shouldn't overlook or gloss over your weaknesses...( if assuming they are indeed weeknesses and not something else. ) when measuring yourself... "measure/balance".

measuring yourself by only your best moments seems like it could take you the road to "has-been'insm" (is that how you speel that?)

**Librazoe1982** · 09-04-2008 12:43 PM

Measuring yourself by your best moments in life instead of dwelling on the past can help those who have poor self-esteem. As for failure, there is no such thing, just learning experiences. You either learn that you can not achieve the goal, or you use it to get ahead and achieve the goal.

**Ahern & Brucker** · 09-04-2008 01:00 PM

Originally Posted by Librazoe1982

Measuring yourself by your best moments in life instead of dwelling on the past can help those who have poor self-esteem. .

Well so can antidepressants but it can't be anything more than a temp fix. people who have epoor self esteem probably don't have too many "best moments" to dwell on because no matter what they have accomplished, they won't consider it a "best" moment... right? because they have poor, low or no self esteem.

If they have problems with their self esteem, they probably need professional help or, they have a legitimate reason for their poor self esteem.

it's nice to think their are no such thing as "failure" but unfortunately, that's not true... their are a lot of people, situations that are or who have failed...

we have a goal and a means to accomplish that goal that is solid... if for some reason we can't accomplish that goal, giving everything we have at our disposal, it's no longer a learning opp but a failure.

afterall, we are not doctors dealing in "practice" our results actually count.