Help me with my problems! :)

**osmondphoto** · 05-29-2011 02:09 AM

Ok let's start by, I like talking to people, and I think I do pretty good with being social.

BUT I'm horrible with talking to stranger unless I'm being introduced or they talk to me first, or im on the job then I'm good and lively.

And FYI sometimes I shoot in event and I constantly talking to stranger, but i get weird when I'm just in the street or In an event where I'm not shooting.

I have hard time doing small talk, and how to approach them, what's a good advice or a way to do this?

**PennyBartlow** · 06-02-2011 10:11 AM

A good way to start a conversation with a stranger is to give them a sincere compliment. Start practicing by just walking up to someone and say "I love your shirt" or "you have a great smile". The more you do it, the easier it gets and the more comfortable you become talking with strangers.

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**PeterStavrinides** · 06-04-2011 08:39 AM

It is all about fear. The reason you are good at talking to your friends or colleagues is because you feel very comfortable around them, however talking to a stranger you have no idea on what they are going to say back to you... because you have no idea who they are or what their general views are. You also feel confident when on a job because you have the confidence in what you are doing and that in itself is a talking point.

I personally have no problem talking to strangers, and I wouldn't suggest any specific opening line to start with apart from literally the first thing that pops into your head, trust your wisdom and your own instincts. Put your fears aside and you will have no problem. The advice I can give you is that you need to have confidence within yourself for these kinds of issues, and that is definately something you can work on, as long as you are aware of it and have the drive to do it, you will find a way of doing it.

As you said in your post, if someone talks to you first, you have no problem talking to them... because you feel happy that someone is showing an interest in you, so if you approach someone and start talking to them, they will feel happy that you have shown an interest. It works both ways. Now, this is needless to say that EVERYONE you speak to will feel happy, because some people will interpret it differently, but they KEY is to know that it is only these people's negative interpretations and it is not your actual mannerisms that have inflicted this.

I hope that this has helped you, please feel free to ask any questions on what I have said if you don't quite understand.

**Fredaskinss** · 06-12-2011 04:53 AM

It is simple
the fear is common to everyone,all you need do is to see the other fellow as you are,then be very polite and enthusiastic,simple polite remark like "Hi",can spark off there attention.Be interesting and confident,keep your words short and simple.
I have applied these princiqles over time and it worked,mind u i use to be very "Shy" but now i can start a conversation with whomever i want.

**kevinkllewis** · 06-14-2011 05:58 AM

The best advice I can think of is to remember that these strangers are people just like you. They generally have the same issues you have. If you can train yourself to believe that they want your friendship as much as you want theirs it may make it a bit easier to approach them. The key to earning their trust, however, is empathic listening. People want to be heard more than they want to hear. When you start the conversation make a valiant effort to listen to what they are saying before you attempt to impart your ideas and viewpoints. "Seek first to understand; then be understood".

**Gary Barzel** · 07-31-2011 10:40 AM

Try starting off with a question, that way when you get the response you can reply to that response and carry the conversation a little further. Practice by approaching random strangers on the street and asking them questions you may already know the answer to, like directions or the time. You will see that if you approach in a friendly manner generally people like to be helpful. With time this should get easier. Once you are accustomed to this then when you want to approach people to start a conversation pretend it's like you are asking them for directions.