Stop Complaining

[pacificfame]

I read the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth and if there is one thing I applied it is stop complaining.

Now believe me I still complain but I catch myself before I let it go any furtherer. What does complaining solve? Nothing! It makes situations more complicated and causes more stress.

I challenge everyone to just try not to complain as much. When you catch yourself complaining just stop take a deep breathe and leave it be. Even in some really crazy situations where I could of sat there and complained all day I just took a deep breathe and realized complaining will do me no good.

[Cognition]

For the past year, I have cut down on complaining sigificantly - it doesn't help anything, and it's a waste of breath.

[TranquilSkye]

I've been trying harder to follow this exact advice myself. I actually give myself complain time. I set a timer for a few minutes and complain all I want until it dings. When it dings its time for happy, positive thoughts. Sounds silly, but its working.

[richkid]

I think the same is for worrying.

I heard this story of this guy who used to only worry on wednesdays. If he had something to worry about on any other day he would write it down, and put it in his "to worry on wednesday box"

And he found that when he got to Wednesday and started reading through the things he was supposed to worry about, about 95% of them didn't even matter anymore.

I know it is a simple analogy but it made me think that we worry to much about little things that dont matter.

Oh, and back onto complaining - I think that if we focus on being thankful for things, that we will find ourselves complaining less.

[sarathy]

Why do you consider it as complaining? Think that you are venting out your grievances. Its always better to pour out something, that will cause a lot of stress. Of course, you should not start nagging another person.

[Streamline]

If we spent all our time worrying and complaining and being negative, we are only going to get negative things. Have you guys ever seen people who are complaining about money and the lack of it......they are always constantly in debt. Most of the time if you focus on prosperity, your mind will think about how to get what you want. Be positive.

Max Vistitsky

[Ronnie_Nurss]

I agree - complaining and worrying are all negative. I remember being told "There is no such thing as a bad day - but there is such thing as a bad attitude." Positive attitude and thoughts are key to success.

[silversurfer]

I am a very political person. In the last 8 years the climate has been pretty bad. Well after 6 months of complaining I decided to STOP worrying or complaining about anything political. If I saw something I didn't like, I looked for a solution and then I promoted the solution. I've tried to always promote what I like and ignore what I don't. Maybe you don't see it on this board, but that's what I try to do.

Why get upset about global warming when you can buy a high mileage car or Prius? Why get complain about your coworkers or neighbors when you can prove to them how happy you are with your choices? I haven't installed solar panels yet, but I looked into them.

Why get upset about politician X? It's better for you to research what YOU believe in and promote your beliefs through the promotion of a candidate who promotes those beliefs. It does you no good to disparage another candidate because in general everyone is able to mock someone else for something. What can happen is that you distrust ALL political candidates and they ALL seem flawed. Everyone, of course, is flawed. But what's important is that we promote the change we want even through flawed representatives. As long as the change works and the result is a functional government that's a good thing.

[Finandom]

I found that complaining is good if you complain about yourself
maybe you complain why you so lazy, complain why you always procrastinate. this complain will definitely motivate you. At least this work for me.

Complain on ourselves and forgive others.

[zoobie]

All who posted their opinions are right. I think complaining has its bad effects as well as good ones to some. As long as one don't complain too much including those petty things. To others, complaining helped them for doing better. It motivated them. To some, it is negative the fact that they only gained stress which is also true..

I complain, too. But I try to do something about it and do what I can to be content with things. It's really stressful if you complain too much. Not only it affects you mentally but physically.

[zumzug]

I think you are talking about whining. Many young people do that. Complaining is ok, it is asking for what you want. Whining is not; it is saying that things sucks and not doing anything about it.