Handling Stress, Adice Anyone?

[Young Spark]

HANDLING STRESS, ADVICE ANYONE?

I need some advice... I have been stressing like crazy lately and its driving me crazy. I have been trying to start my businesses but with my fiance being back in school and the lack of seeing her my days have been a wreck and hasn't allowed me to make much progress on my businesses or even planning them for that matter.

I need some advice on what exactly I can do to help me better manage my stress. And its not helping that I keep thinking about negativities in our relationship if there ever is any. Its like, I want to spend every day with her and I can't cause she is back in school and I can't think straight enough to get my mind set right.

Any help is appreciated...

[Rpmossotti]

think of your time away from her as a time for you to grow and work on your business opportunites to make big money. If you spend that time devolping businesses and making money, you will be able to reitre young and both of you wont have to work and you can spend every day together on a beach somewhere!

[BeTheBox]

Medication. Im at a point myself where im ready to discuss stress and anxiety with a primary doctor... need a routine physical any how. But perhaps your not that severe.




Exercise and meditation does do you good, helps alot with stress. Eat well, sleep well. On that note- I need food.

[Young Spark]

No, its not that severe "BTB" but its does get me down a bit, IDK, its her Senior year so I guess I should've knew it.

[Cole Taylor]

You need to listen to Tom: http://www.blowmeuptom.com/

If I need to zone out and forget about things I ride my bike. Can't think about much else when you're heavy on the brakes, banging down a few gears, setting your self up for the next corner.

If I need to let out some agression I go spar (kenpo).

[tsbales]

HANDLING STRESS, ADVICE ANYONE?

I need some advice... I have been stressing like crazy lately and its driving me crazy. I have been trying to start my businesses but with my fiance being back in school and the lack of seeing her my days have been a wreck and hasn't allowed me to make much progress on my businesses or even planning them for that matter.

I need some advice on what exactly I can do to help me better manage my stress. And its not helping that I keep thinking about negativities in our relationship if there ever is any. Its like, I want to spend every day with her and I can't cause she is back in school and I can't think straight enough to get my mind set right.

Any help is appreciated...

Two thoughts....

1. Hook up all the electronic means to talk with her on a regular basis. While it isn't like being there, a web cam and a Skyp connection can take away a bit of the edge.

2. Studies have shown that exercise and proper diet can help reduce the symptoms of stress (if not the stress itself). Get on a regular plan in both areas and it may help you focus a bit more.

Hope that helps. Best of luck to you.

[BeTheBox]

No, its not that severe "BTB" but its does get me down a bit, IDK, its her Senior year so I guess I should've knew it.

Good to hear

[BeTheBox]

You need to listen to Tom: http://www.blowmeuptom.com/

If I need to zone out and forget about things I ride my bike. Can't think about much else when you're heavy on the brakes, banging down a few gears, setting your self up for the next corner.

I second that. Really forces you into a meditative state. A little throttel always does the trick

[freedom.project]

I would say that you should try to spend as much time with her as you can, that is if she is still in your area. And if she isn't. Find away to go see her on the weekends.

But should think concentrate on you business and while you doing it, think about her. You should consider that fact that you going to make her dreams come true. And to do this, you need money, which will hopefully come from you business.

And don't resort to medications. Just find something that calms you. For me, I love racing and I love cars so when I get stressed. I work on my car. Anything from changing brakes and oil to new performance parts. Or just straight up going for a drive and finding some kids to take off on a green light. Just find something that you love to do thats a pleasure, not business, to calm you down.

[richkid]

whenever you feel stressed go for a jog, and just clear your mind.

[Young Spark]

^^ Thank you for your responses... great advice so far, anymore comments?

[biz-doggy]

Maybe you can consider setting aside weekends for her? Meanwhile, as you are doing your business, perhaps you can see it in this way: "I'm doing this business for both of us(you and her). The more effort and time I put in the business, the sooner I can spend quality time with her, when the business is stable."

Just my 2 cents of opinions.

[sarathy]

It is nice to have your relationship as a back up for your success. However, in your case, i think you are driven by obsession. I suggest that you keep in touch constantly and work for your business too. Maybe you can spend some time speaking to her over the phone or voice chat, to discuss the day and I think that will help you de stress and also make you feel that she's closer to you. Looking forward to speaking to her at the end of the day, will actually motivate you throughout the day.

[Young Spark]

^^ I actually see her twice through out the school day during her release times but its only for like 20 mins each time. I just did see her and I love her so much that its hard to say goodbye when she has to go back. You gotta understand the difference between "Love" and "Obsession." We've been together for almost 2 years (it'd be 2 years Sept. 21 )

But we spent time with each other last night and she's going to come and get me after school again today, and we got plans for this weekend.

Thanks everyone for the responses... keep 'em coming

[focalpoint]

well what i believe about stress is that, we are the ones who invite stress and we are the ones who can keep it away. basically stress happens when you cannot achieve what you have desired. it arises when you cannot accomplish your goal which will lead you to anger, frustration and ultimately stress out yourself. have you been setting too many goals which you cannot accomplish in shorter time, have a look at your business goals are they realistic and attainable in real time. so how do you handle stress : set realistic goals for yourself. for example is you have set a goal to start your business by the next 30 days which is quite hard and when you dont achieve it because of some engagements and other work you ultimately stress out.


so its very simple. set realistic attainable goals. achieve them. reward your self and set more goals. that is how you can stay away from stress. hope it helps.